How to raise resilient kids!!

Raising resilient kids
Raising resilient kids

A while back I came across an article that spoke about “helicopter parenting”…parents that hover over their kids.This got my attention and I asked myself am I a helicopter parent?Do I want to be a helicopter parents? Based on the article, there were distinct signs that the answer was yes to the former question…so how do I answer the latter question?

I started researching more on the subject matter and this post will share some of my research.

How do I raise resilient kid/kids? A kid that can cope with challenges!

1.Teach your kid to talk about feelings

Make talking about feelings a daily topic of conversation.Ask your kid how they feel about different experiences in their life. For example:

  • When you meet people for the first time?
  • When you lose a game?
  • When a toy breaks?
  • When you are asked to do something you don’t want to do but need to do?

Adopt teachable moments to explore and discuss feelings. If you are reading a book or watching a movie with your child, ask them to think about how the characters feel.This will start helping them understand that feelings of sadness, disappointment, anger and frustration are completely normal;it teaches them that happiness is not possible every moment of every day.

2. Teach your kid healthy ways to cope with big emotions

Adopting these skills, empowers your kid to have some control over their emotions and that they can handle those emotions in a safe and healthy way.

Imagine a favorite place
Get a drink of water
Distraction by playing a game
Colour or draw
Build something with lego
Play soothing music
Take a break in a calming environment

3.Teach your kid to take deep breaths 
A simple way you can teach them to take 5 deep breaths just using their hand. Position yourself so that you are at the same level with your child. Have them put up one hand, palm facing you and fingers spread. With your finger, start at the base of their thumb and breathe in while you move your hand up one side of their thumb. Move your finger down the other side of their thumb and breathe out. Do the same thing with the remaining four fingers, while both of you take deep breaths in and out. After you’ve reached the pinky finger, you’ll have done 5 complete deep breaths.(sourced and quoted from Janine Halloran)

This exercise aids in connecting with your child on their level.End the exercise with a hug or high five.

4. Create an environment for non scheduled activities.Play!

Allow some time outside of the routine of scheduled activities.Let your child simply play with open ended toys.Toys that are blocks, dolls, cars and icecream sticks.

Its a great stress reliever apart from it being activities nurturing a creative side.

Given your support and love, your child will learn how to enjoy the good times but weather the storm.

Happy parenting!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

7 thoughts on “How to raise resilient kids!!

  1. Resilience such a key trait to build in our children. I like what you said about giving free play, and also teaching them how to deal with big emotions (I think need that too !). Loved your post!

    1. Thank you so much for engaging.Glad you liked it…keep an eye out.My next post is on emotional intelligence and my journey professionally and personally.Take care and keep sharing with us your awesome posts.

  2. Such a great post – I think it is vital that parents teach their kids these traits. We can’t just wrap them in cotton wool and protect them all the time. As they grow up they need to know how to deal with situations and their emotions.

    1. Thank you. Yes and I can see the difference at work when I speak the graduates about their background and the one that were not protected all the time deal with EQ so much better.

  3. Lady P, I might have not reached the stage of parenthood but I’m very sure that I’ve gained enough knowledge by just reading your blogs . The positive energy in your posts has just the perfect aroma and perfect direction for one who is looking forward to starting a family . Keep the blogs coming .

    1. Thank you so much.
      You are awesome and I know if you decide to have kids, you are going to be an amazing mom

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